One in six women in the UK has experienced economic abuse by a current or former partner. Over a third didn’t tell anyone at the time. Those who did were most likely to confide in family and friends. 

The mission of Surviving Economic Abuse is to raise awareness of and transform responses to economic abuse. We want everyone to understand:

• what economic abuse is
• how to recognise it in the context of domestic violence
• what they can do to support victim-survivors. 

What is economic abuse? 

“Money doesn’t make you happy but without money, there’s nowhere to go. That’s why, for me, economic abuse is the greatest form of control.” 

Domestic abuse takes many forms. Some abusers repeatedly dictate their partner’s choices and control their everyday actions, becoming violent or threatening to become violent if their demands are refused.  

Abusers may interfere (through restriction, exploitation and sabotage) with their partner’s access to money and finances, as well as those things that money can buy (such as food, clothing, transportation and a place to live). This is economic abuse, and it is designed to limit someone’s freedom. 

This type of abuse can create economic instability and/or make one partner dependent on the other, which can prevent victims from leaving and rebuilding their lives. 

What can you do? 

If someone you care about is being abused — or if you think that they might be — it can be very difficult to know how to support them. You may wonder whether you have good reason to be concerned, and you may wonder what you should do or say for the best. You may even worry about making things worse. 

We work with a group of women who have experienced economic abuse. They are ‘Experts by Experience’ and their insight underpins our work. We asked them what a friend, relative or colleague could have done to help them. This is what they said. 

Look out for warning signs 

Warning signs might include: 

Not having enough money

• leaving their purse ‘at home’ a few times 
• being short of money or unable to buy inexpensive items even if they work 
• asking to borrow money to pay bills for essential items 
• food being in short supply 

Joint finances 

• appearing to be in some kind of ‘conflict’ with a partner concerning money, earnings or savings 
• saying their partner deals with all money matters, and having no knowledge of service providers or how much things cost 
• not having access to the joint bank account 
• wages or benefits being paid directly into their partner’s account 

Shopping habits 

• always using cash and not a card 
• counting the pennies and making lengthy decisions when shopping 
• buying cheap items 
• seeking their partner’s permission before making any purchases 
• saying things like, “he won’t let me spend money on that” 
• a notable contrast in their spending habits and lifestyle compared to their partner’s 

Not working

• leaving work when they liked their job 
• expressing a desire to work but their partner not supporting them to do so 

Not socialising 

• making excuses not to join friends for coffee and meals out 
• working hard and looking after the children while their partner is out all the time 

Appearance 

• wearing ill-fitting or worn out clothing 
• not having a coat to wear when it is cold 
• not having the money to have their hair done 
• not being able to buy personal items 

Appearing anxious 

• hiding what they have bought so their partner does not see it 
• ‘over-reacting’ to normal situations, such as going out for a meal or planning a holiday 

Cost-of-living crisis

Abusers may try to take advantage of the cost-of-living crisis to further their control. We have information on tactics that an abuser may use during the cost-of-living crisis.

Offer support 

There are some simple ways that you can support a friend, family member or colleague if they are a victim of economic abuse: 

Express concern 

Don’t ask too many questions, but say that help is available and that they are not alone. 

Believe them 

Take time to listen. Recognise that it may take time to act and don’t force a response. 

Provide practical help 

Offer a spare room or provide essential items, like food, clothing and toiletries. Help sort out an action plan. 

Have information about domestic abuse services to hand 

If someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, encourage them to contact a helpline or an online support service. You could look up these resources for them, or even offer to be with them while they make the call or text. 
 
Economic abuse rarely happens in isolation. It may be occurring alongside other forms of domestic abuse.² If a someone you know is in immediate danger, they should call the police on 999. 

Last updated July 2021

Further support 

If someone you know is experiencing economic abuse, they are not alone. We have information that can support them to take steps towards safety and begin to regain control of their finances.